Video Transcript
[0:00] Welcome to Caregiver SOS by Bay Alarm Medical. My name is Haley Burress. I’m a caregiving expert here to talk about the ugly side of caregiving that no one wants to talk about — the most frustrating and challenging parts of caring for an aging family member, and how to get through it.
[0:22] Our question today is about grief: “My mom was always so active and healthy. Since her arthritis has progressed, she’s just not the same. Her health, mobility, and capabilities are declining. It’s hard to see, and it makes me so sad.”
[0:34] Watching your aging parent decline is difficult. You’re likely experiencing some anticipatory grief here — grieving for her physical decline while also trying to come to terms with what that failing health means in the future.
[0:50] Aside from talking to your partner and friends about your feelings, you should also work with a therapist during regular visits to process some of this.
[1:00] You can also make a conscious effort to write down or even just say out loud three things you’re thankful for every time you get done with a visit or phone call from your mom. This isn’t toxic positivity, but instead programming your brain to hold both the grief and the gratitude at the same time. There is room for both.
[1:35] If you’ve experienced this, share your story in the comments — we read every one.
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