Video Transcript
[0:00] Welcome to Caregiver SOS by Bay Alarm Medical. My name is Haley Burress. I’m a caregiving expert here to talk about the ugly side of caregiving that no one talks about — the most frustrating and challenging parts of caring for an aging family member, and how to get through it.
[0:15] Caregiving can lead to all sorts of emotions. Let’s talk about it with our question. “I’ve been a caregiver in some capacity for my parents for over a decade. I’m exhausted. I’ve given up so much of my life to put their needs first. I’m resentful and angry about it. So many years of my life, so many opportunities are gone.”
[0:48] Resentment is an uncomfortable emotion. It makes us sit with regret, which isn’t always helpful because we can’t change our decisions. We cannot change the past. We can only look forward and change our actions starting now.
[1:05] If you are feeling resentful, first understand that your feelings are valid. Many caregivers feel resentment at some point in their caregiving journey. If possible, consider joining a caregiver support group. You’ll benefit from sharing your story with others who understand, as well as learning from other caregivers who have dealt with their own feelings of resentment.
[1:25] Consider working with a therapist who has experience in family caregiving. Talking through those missed opportunities and years can be therapeutic when done with an experienced counselor.
[1:38] Journaling can also be an effective way to process resentment, regret, and grief.
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