Video Transcript
[0:00] Welcome to Caregiver SOS by Bay Alarm Medical. My name is Haley Burress. I’m a caregiving expert here to talk about the ugly side of caregiving that no one talks about — the most frustrating and challenging parts of caring for an aging family member, and how to get through it.
[0:15] Here’s our question. “My mom has dementia. She lives with me. She’s restless and anxious every afternoon starting at 4:00 PM. She asks the same questions over and over. She paces around. She needs constant supervision and redirection. I know it’s her disease, but it is unbearable. My mental health is suffering. Any tips?”
[0:52] When you’re a family caregiver, you can often see your aging loved one at their worst. Whether they are asking the same question over and over, like in our question, or doing something else like crying out in pain or even being verbally aggressive, it can take a toll on your mental health.
[1:10] First, consider getting some extra support during the afternoon hours at least once a week. This could mean having a family member or neighbor come over to offer you a little support so you aren’t the only one trying to redirect and calm your mom. You can also have a home care caregiver come in once a week or so to give you that relief.
[1:32] Another tip is to try to calm the situation before it gets out of hand. You know she gets anxious around 4:00 PM, which means you might already begin dreading it hours earlier. Instead of dreading it, try to start a soothing routine around 2 or 3. Use lavender or other relaxing essential oils to diffuse. Play quiet and calming music. Have a snack together — a cup of decaf tea and a few cookies can set both of you up for a better late afternoon.
[2:00] Try to get outdoors together. Being out in the fresh air can be a good distraction for both of you. If it’s cold, bundle up. If it’s raining, grab an umbrella.
[2:15] Singing and dancing can also work wonders for both of you. It’s a distraction for your mom, and for you it’s an excellent stress reliever. Plus, you are creating memories that you’ll remember for years to come.
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