Adapt expectations for sibling when caregiving

Lisa Wurth

August 22, 2011

In a lot of caregiving situations, one person becomes a primary caregiver, whether for a parent or elderly sibling. That can put a lot of strain on personal health and interfere with other family relationships, especially if siblings aren't willing to contribute in some way. 

That's the case of Carolyn Rosenblatt, an elder care adviser who recently wrote in Forbes magazine that she is having trouble persuading some siblings of an older adult in the family to contribute to care.

Even distant family members can help a caregiver with small financial contributions, but Rosenblatt writes that there are some who still refuse to do this. She has only managed to get two of the four siblings to help a little.

Instead of stressing about the fact that someone won't assist a senior, Rosenblatt recommends changing expectations of the person. Because, more often than not, they will not change.

Those who are feeling overwhelmed by their responsibilities should try to find other ways that can alleviate some of the burden. One innovative device is the senior alert system, which allows older adults to immediately get in touch with medical services.